THE HIGH VALUE GOD HAS ON MOTHERHOOD!
The women of my people you drive out from their delightful houses; from their young children you take away my splendor forever. —Micah 2:9
There is no doubt we have seen radical change in the culture of America when it comes to the family. This is no great surprise when we think of the family as God’s basic building block of society. Why would not Satan seek to destroy the family? The impact that mothers have on their children is enormous. I see the impact my own wife has had on our children when they were young… and that she still does today because of the foundation laid early in life.
Mothers have been encouraged to believe they are missing out if they are not in the workplace. Satan is a liar and he uses incrementalism as one of his greatest tools. If he sought radical change immediately, he would not be able to accomplish what he instead desires to do over time. People live in the present and do not think much about the past. They do not think about history. They do not consider past foundations…
I clearly remember back in the 1960’s when I was growing up. My mom and so many other mothers were “stay at home moms.” They spent their time with their children and each other. I am not trying to paint a picture of perfection. That was not so, but—
Since the 1980s, the labor supply of married women increased significantly (Blau and Kahn, 2007). This trend is part of a revolutionary economic and social shift in female employment (Goldin, 2006). With these changes has come a rise in dual-earner households. The proportion of dual earner married couples more than doubled between 1960 and 2000, increasing from 25 percent to 60 percent (Pew Research Center, 2015). The rise of the second earner has meant many middle-class households now rely, for better or worse, on two incomes. https://www2.census.gov/ces/wp/2019/CES-WP-19-19.pdf#:~:text=With%20these%20changes%20has%20come%20a%20rise%20in,percent%20to%2060%20percent%20%28Pew%20Research%20Center%2C%202015%29.
Forces behind scenes are working to make it appear things will be better if both parents are working. Sure, look at our culture, look at our families. Do you think things are better? Our society is a mess. This, on one hand, is not a surprise. We live in a fallen world, but it does not excuse the responsibility before our Lord God Almighty that we have for our families.
This driving moms away from their children has been utterly detrimental. Children just about always get the “short end of the stick” or the “bad in of the deal.” They end up being the losers in the situation. What better way to have moms be less influential on their children that to occupy them outside the home? The idea is that with two income earners we can provide “more” for our children. This has not been a positive outcome. Children might get more material stuff, but they miss out on relational impact from their mothers. This is long lasting in our culture where even mentioning what I am saying is “outdated” by most of those presently living and even of those that may read this.
I am so grateful that my wife spent the time at home with our children when they were growing up. Yeh, she came home from a very lucrative career to be with them, but the impact she made cannot be measured in this life. Now to see our two daughters spending time at home with their daughters (our grand-daughters), who will also have a huge positive impact, is only because of the modeling thay had of a loving, godly mom… my wife.
Dear Father, I am so grateful for Your design of the family and it is so heart-breaking to see families so fragmented today. Oh, please help us in this area by the power of Your Holy Spirit and in the authority of Your Dear Son Jesus. You have shown us what community is suppose to be. Oh, that we would learn and follow Your model! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RFeEdiEAW2A